Honesty can be such a little thing, but the most important thing. There is no growth or change without it. It informs our conscience and provides the foundation and direction for our life.
Have you ever gone through the check-out line and just as you step away having paid for your purchases you look down at the foot of your cart and see a large item, say, toilet paper. This happened to me recently and not being too sure of my memory these days a little worm of doubt burrowed its way into my mind. Had I paid for this? No one else was worried about it if I had proceeded to walk out the door, and it was only six dollars of goods. But my conscience is a fragile and precious thing, so I stopped, turned, and asked if the cashier had included this purchase? No, she had not. So she rang it up. I paid and then left – with a clear conscience.
If we can’t be true to ourselves in the little things of life, will we be true, honest, in matters of life and death. Self-deception happens on many levels in our lives.
Sometimes we deceive ourselves because we are unwilling to listen to what God has to say about something. Just before Passover it is important to consider the area of forgiveness. Are we living the truth when it comes to being honest about our relationships with others – a friend, a spouse, a brother, a workmate. Are we perhaps hiding or glossing over the truth that we are harbouring bitterness or ill-will, for real or imagined hurts. Let’s be honest with ourselves, so we can heal the hurt.
It is so easy in every difficult situation to point the finger of blame. But honesty would make us aware of the true nature of things. It would help us break down our natural resistance to admitting our own faults.
A few days ago someone stepped backwards tripped over the dishwasher door and broke it. The cost to repair the damage is probably going to be considerable. Now the truth is multi-faceted. Yes, perhaps this person should have been more careful, more aware of their surroundings. But that is only part of the truth, what of the individual responsible for leaving the door down in the first place and walking away without closing it. How would you assess the percentage blame?
The wonderful truth about forgiveness is you don’t need to assess blame! When people are honest and willing to accept responsibility, then forgiveness can occur and people can then work together to find solutions instead of wallowing in bitterness and recrimination. They can share the burden of the expense to fix the dishwasher and the joy of hand washing dishes until the repairs are complete.
What is the point of contention in your life now. Perhaps asking God to help you see the truth of the matter in its full spectrum and with your vision unclouded by emotions and prejudices will help you forgive and move on in your life.
Truth is the foundation everything must be built on, without that rock to stand on your life is just quicksand.